Comments on: Courtship Definitions http://www.practicalcourtship.com/2009/courtship-definitions/ making courtship work in the real world Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:28:48 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Leigh http://www.practicalcourtship.com/2009/courtship-definitions/comment-page-1/#comment-139 Leigh Wed, 06 Jan 2010 18:23:32 +0000 http://www.practicalcourtship.com/?p=71#comment-139 Under the rational for Courtship: "in order to be kept away from sexual and emotional sin." Is that the only reason for parents to be involved? That sounds like fear to me. My reason for having my parents and our community involved when my husband and I were dating was so that we could discern God's will in our relationship and to help us grow. Yes, accountability was a part of it... but we didn't just want to focus on what we couldn't do... we wanted a picture of beauty to run towards... not a picture of evil to run away from. There is a slight distiction, but I believe an important one and it changes my rational for courtship. It's far more motivating to run toward something amazing rather than fear and dread the darkness. Under the rational for Courtship: “in order to be kept away from sexual and emotional sin.” Is that the only reason for parents to be involved? That sounds like fear to me. My reason for having my parents and our community involved when my husband and I were dating was so that we could discern God's will in our relationship and to help us grow. Yes, accountability was a part of it… but we didn't just want to focus on what we couldn't do… we wanted a picture of beauty to run towards… not a picture of evil to run away from. There is a slight distiction, but I believe an important one and it changes my rational for courtship. It's far more motivating to run toward something amazing rather than fear and dread the darkness.

]]> By: Gregory http://www.practicalcourtship.com/2009/courtship-definitions/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Gregory Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:53:44 +0000 http://www.practicalcourtship.com/?p=71#comment-85 So what is neo courtship anyway? So what is neo courtship anyway?

]]> By: Hannah http://www.practicalcourtship.com/2009/courtship-definitions/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Hannah Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:58:58 +0000 http://www.practicalcourtship.com/?p=71#comment-64 I think it might be helpful in terms of definition if you could elaborate more on neo courtship and classical courtship. I don't really know where you're coming from with either one of those terms. I think it might be helpful in terms of definition if you could elaborate more on neo courtship and classical courtship. I don’t really know where you’re coming from with either one of those terms.

]]> By: Tom http://www.practicalcourtship.com/2009/courtship-definitions/comment-page-1/#comment-31 Tom Mon, 28 Sep 2009 00:14:39 +0000 http://www.practicalcourtship.com/?p=71#comment-31 Can you submit a value, criterion and rationale for neo courtship? Can you submit a value, criterion and rationale for neo courtship?

]]> By: Tom Umstattd http://www.practicalcourtship.com/2009/courtship-definitions/comment-page-1/#comment-24 Tom Umstattd Fri, 18 Sep 2009 06:03:07 +0000 http://www.practicalcourtship.com/?p=71#comment-24 I am glad I am already married and don't have to personally worry my little head about such things, only about the parents of my grandchildren. I am glad I am already married and don’t have to personally worry my little head about such things, only about the parents of my grandchildren.

]]> By: Brian http://www.practicalcourtship.com/2009/courtship-definitions/comment-page-1/#comment-15 Brian Sun, 13 Sep 2009 02:45:26 +0000 http://www.practicalcourtship.com/?p=71#comment-15 Good start, I'd say. It sets up a very interesting discussion: is purity a value in and of itself or is it just a means to a goal? Lookin' forward to it. One concern: so, is the CONTROL truly external, or is courtship just about external accountability. I don't think that most courtships involve parents controlling what's going on, more like monitoring it and giving feedback. That doesn't create quite as much of a distinction, but I do think that it's a little more accurate to say that the couple has control, with outside accountability. Kinda like the system of checks and balances that are in our government. If that makes any sense. > Brian Good start, I’d say. It sets up a very interesting discussion: is purity a value in and of itself or is it just a means to a goal? Lookin’ forward to it.

One concern: so, is the CONTROL truly external, or is courtship just about external accountability. I don’t think that most courtships involve parents controlling what’s going on, more like monitoring it and giving feedback. That doesn’t create quite as much of a distinction, but I do think that it’s a little more accurate to say that the couple has control, with outside accountability. Kinda like the system of checks and balances that are in our government. If that makes any sense.

> Brian

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